How I Broke Free from All-or-Nothing Thinking in Weight Loss

Hey there. For a long time, I approached weight loss with an all-or-nothing mindset. I was either completely “on” and following a plan perfectly, or I was “off” and feeling like I had failed. Over time, I learned that this way of thinking was holding me back more than it was helping me. That’s when I started building my foundation around my preferences, and it has completely changed the way I approach eating, exercise, and my active lifestyle.

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What Makes the YLFcommunity Different?

Hey there. One of the most underrated parts of a weight loss journey is the people you surround yourself with. I’m not just talking about whether they support or sabotage you. I’m talking about how they shape the way you think, feel, and show up for yourself. This process can already feel like a mental tug of war, so if your environment is pulling you in a different direction, it can make everything harder.

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Walking Helped Me Reconnect With My Body

Hey there. One of the best things I’ve added into my day is walking. Not just walking for steps or calorie burn, but walking as a way to check in with myself. I’m talking about walking without headphones, without a podcast playing, and without scrolling my phone. Just moving, breathing, and being fully present.

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Boring Days Are the Secret to Real Change

Hey there. Most people think health and fitness have to be exciting all the time. Social media is full of dramatic workout clips, extreme diets, and transformation stories that make it seem like every day should feel like a big moment. But the truth is, the real progress happens in the boring, ordinary days. And that’s actually something worth celebrating.

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Take Control of Trigger Foods Once and for All

Hey there. There was a time when I felt like certain foods had total control over me. I would see them in the store or at a party and feel anxious, almost guilty, before I even took a bite. I had a mental list of things I “shouldn’t” have, and those foods sat on a pedestal in my mind. They were all I could think about. And when I did eventually “give in,” it wasn’t just a taste. I’d go all in, check out mentally, and end up feeling worse afterward.

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Stop Burning Out on Your Weight Loss Journey

Hey there. Burnout sneaks up on you when you least expect it. I know because I’ve been there, not just in life but especially on my weight loss journey. It’s easy to think that if we just push harder, do more workouts, track more closely, or hit more goals, we’ll get there faster. Even when we logically know that’s not true, we still push. And the result is often exhaustion, frustration, and feeling like you’ve lost control of the whole process.

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A Path To Defuse Trigger Foods

Hey there. For years you may have felt like certain foods have power over you. Foods that you “can’t keep in the house,” foods you’ve labeled as off-limits, foods that trigger guilt or anxiety just by being around. I know what that feels like because I’ve worked with countless clients who have been stuck in that exact cycle. And the good news is there’s a way out. There’s a path to diffusing those trigger foods so they lose the hold they’ve had on you for years, maybe even decades.

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Quiet Actions Create Big Results Over Time

Hey there. When I think about consistency, I can’t help but picture the old iPod armband I used to wear at the gym. It was big, bulky, and honestly kind of ridiculous looking. I would strap it to my arm, thread the wired earbuds up through my shirt, and hope the cord didn’t snag on a machine mid workout. It wasn’t glamorous, but it got the job done.

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The Weight Loss Advice I Wish I’d Given Myself Years Ago

Hey there. We’ve all been told that weight loss should happen fast. Everywhere we look we see messages that say the quicker we lose weight the better. I fell into that trap too. For years I thought if I could just get to my goal weight faster I’d finally feel good enough. But you know what really happens when you try to go full speed all the time? You burn out. You start. You stop. You restart. And before you know it you’re in the same exact cycle you’ve been stuck in for years.

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The Weekly Reset That Keeps Me Moving Forward

Hey there. I’ve learned that setting weekly goals for weight loss isn’t about pushing yourself to exhaustion, it’s about building a structure that works with your life instead of against it. For years I tried the “go all in” approach, the one where you set huge goals and feel like you’re failing the second you don’t hit them perfectly. That way of thinking left me frustrated and burned out. What changed everything for me was learning how to set up goals in a way that felt calm, repeatable, and effective.

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I Stopped Chasing My Goals and Started Crushing Them

Hey there. Weight loss is emotional. I think that is something we can all agree on. There’s history tied up in it, and there are feelings that surface every time we step on the scale, try on clothes, or think back to the messages we’ve heard about our bodies for years. I’ve spent much of my life, like many of you, being aware of my body and trying to change it. What I’ve learned is that the key isn’t to ignore those emotions, but to honor them and then create systems where emotions don’t run the show.

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You’ll Get the Hang of It

Hey there. When it comes to eating, exercising, and making this stuff part of your life, you will figure it out. You might not feel like it yet, especially if you’ve spent years on and off different programs. But you will. And when it clicks, you’ll realize that this has always been about taking care of yourself. That’s it.

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Building Calm After the Goal

Hey there. If you’ve lost the weight you wanted to lose, I want to start by saying congratulations. That’s a huge accomplishment. You’ve succeeded at something that many people are told they’ll never be able to do. And if you’ve maintained that weight loss for any stretch of time, months or years, you’ve continued to beat the odds. But now comes the real question… what’s next?

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Feel It to Free It

Hey there. One thing that has come up again and again on my own journey, and in coaching others, is how we deal with obstacles. In weight loss. In fitness. In life. The challenges are going to show up. What matters more than the challenge itself is how you respond. That response impacts your progress, sure, but it impacts your mental and emotional well-being even more.

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From Fear to Trust in Your Fitness Journey

Hey there. For a long time, I approached fitness with urgency. I would push myself through streak challenges, try to eat perfectly, and stack habits like building blocks that I hoped would fix everything. But over time I realized something critical. The habits themselves aren’t the full solution. What drives those habits matters more than anything.

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