Hey there. I have spent a lot of years watching how the fitness industry talks to people. Once you see the patterns, you cannot unsee them. So much of the marketing is built around the idea that you are not enough as you are. Your body is not enough. Your willpower is not enough. Your routine is not enough. And the only way to fix it is to buy whatever solution they are pushing at the moment. What I have learned through my own process is that none of that messaging holds up when you build your life from the inside/out.
Read MoreHey there. I used to look at exercise as something I needed to master immediately. I wanted the perfect routine, the ideal split, the exact formula that would fix everything. But over the years, especially after being on my own fitness and weight loss journey for decades, I realized that what matters most is how willing I am to meet myself where I am. Not where I think I should be. Not where I used to be. Not where I hope to be five years from now. Right here. Right now.
Read MoreHey there. I spent much of my young adult years thinking that changing my body would finally make me feel good enough. If I lost the weight, built the routine, and hit the goals that everyone else said mattered, then maybe I would feel lighter in my own mind. What I eventually learned is that none of that matters if I am tearing myself down from the inside. Loving and appreciating the body I have at every stage is the foundation of everything. That truth applies to fitness, work, relationships, creativity, and the way I move through the world as a whole.
Read MoreHey there. I have been thinking a lot lately about what sits beneath the surface of the things we do. In fitness, in work, in how we show up online and offline, there is always more going on than the actions people see. Most of the time, the things we chase on the outside are only the tip of the iceberg. They look impressive, they look disciplined, and they often get attention. But when you go deeper, you start to realize that your why is what drives everything. And if that why is built on not liking who you are or how you look, nothing on the outside will ever feel like enough.
Read MoreHey there. I used to think my why was supposed to sound inspiring. I thought it needed to be tied to other people or to a version of my future that looked good on paper. I would say things like I am doing this for my health or I am doing this to be a better example for others. Those things mattered, but they were not the real reason I took action. They were not the reason I stayed consistent with my fitness. They were not the reason I kept coming back to something even when life got messy.
Read MoreHey there. I think a lot about what people pick up from my content. Not just the things I say directly, but the subtle things that show up over time. We all absorb more than we realize. When you follow someone or a brand or a message, you naturally gravitate toward certain things. Some are obvious. Others are quieter but end up having the biggest impact. That is what I want to talk about in this post. What you are getting from me. What I hope you are taking with you. And what I hope sticks long after you close the app.
Read MoreHey there. I have been thinking a lot about accountability and access lately. Not accountability in the way most people talk about it where you lean on someone else to keep you in line. I am talking about being accountable to yourself. Being able to look yourself in the eye and trust that you follow through because of who you are, not because someone else is watching.
Read MoreHey there. I want you to be proud of who you are because I want the same thing for myself. Not the version of you that you think you are supposed to be. Not the version shaped by expectations or pressures or past labels. I mean the real you. The one you sometimes lose track of while trying to hold everything together. The one who deserves your time, your attention, and your appreciation.
Read MoreHey there. I talk a lot about standards these days. Not the kind of standards that come from comparison or pressure or trying to keep up with what everyone else is doing. I am talking about the standards you set for yourself. The ones that help you grow from the inside/out and build the life you actually want to live.
Read MoreHey there. I have spent a lot of time around fitness, food, and marketing, and one thing I have learned is that most people never stop to ask who actually benefits from the way they track their food. For years I thought I was benefiting the most when I tracked calories or macros. It felt like I was in control. It felt like I finally had something predictable to hold on to. But the more time I spent working in marketing and watching how the food industry works, the more I realized that the biggest winner in all of this was not me. It was them.
Read MoreHey there. I have a question for you, and this is not one I want you to answer out loud. Who or what offends you? I am not asking because I want the details. I am asking because I want you to pay attention to what lights you up inside. I have learned that when something offends me, there is almost always a deeper reason beneath the surface. It is rarely just about the moment that is in front of me. It usually connects to a part of myself that I have not fully let go of yet.
Read MoreHey there. I talk a lot about peace these days. Not surface level peace. Not the kind you chase from one distraction to the next. I mean the kind of internal calm that starts to show up when you stop trying to prove your worth to everyone else and finally start trusting yourself. This is something I have been working through, and if you are like me, you might have spent most of your life feeling more familiar with chaos than calm.
Read MoreHey there. I spent most of my life chasing external worth without even realizing it. I got praised early on for doing things the right way, for performing, for achieving, for being productive. Maybe you can relate. Somewhere along the way we learned that if we fit in and did what others expected, we would be accepted. So we watched what everyone else was doing. We matched our actions to theirs. We tried not to rock the boat.
Read MoreHey there. I used to think there was one big moment that made me feel like I wasn’t enough. One moment where something happened or someone said something and that was it. The truth is that feeling this way usually comes from a lifetime of small experiences. Little comments. Quiet disappointments. Rejections that seemed minor at the time. They collect in the background of your mind until they build a story that feels impossible to shake.
Read MoreHey there. I used to spend a lot of time comparing my progress to other people.
I would look at what they were doing, how fast they were moving, and how much they seemed to achieve. And every time I did that, I felt like I was behind. Like I was not doing enough. Like there was something wrong with my pace. It took me a long time to realize that none of this was true. I was not behind. I was running my own race.
Read MoreHey there. I spent a lot of years talking about what I wanted without actually doing anything about it. I told myself the timing wasn’t right or I needed to feel more motivated or I needed the perfect plan. All that did was keep me stuck in the same patterns that gave me the same results. Looking back, I wasn’t lacking the ability to take action. I was just wasting time convincing myself that I needed something more than what I already had.
Read MoreHey there. One of the most freeing things I’ve learned over time is that most people only know parts of me, and that’s okay. It used to bother me when someone got the wrong impression, especially if I felt like they misunderstood who I really was or what I was trying to do. I’d want to explain myself. I’d want to fix their perception. But that was wasted energy. People are going to think what they want to think, no matter how much I try to clarify or prove otherwise.
Read MoreHey there. I spent years waiting for the right time to start. The right time to eat better. The right time to get back into a workout routine. The right time to finally go after something I wanted in life. But the truth I eventually learned is that there is no right time. There’s only now. Every time I waited for things to calm down or for the perfect plan to fall into place, I was really just putting off taking responsibility for my life.
Read MoreHey there. There’s something freeing about realizing that most people only ever enjoy the idea of you. The version that fits into their expectations, their comfort zone, or their perception of who you are supposed to be. And honestly, that’s okay. You don’t owe the full version of yourself to everyone.
Read MoreHey there. I don’t want you to look back one day and realize you spent years trying to become someone you thought you were supposed to be instead of embracing who you already are. I’ve seen too many people chase the perfect plan, the perfect body, or the perfect moment, only to end up feeling like they wasted time. Fitness is supposed to help you live more fully, not make you feel like you’re constantly falling short.
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