Hey there. You get to choose where you go from here.
That might sound obvious, but it does not always feel that way when you have been stuck in the same patterns for years. Especially if those patterns are tied to weight loss, body image, or the belief that you need to fix yourself before you can live the life you want.
Read MoreHey there. Where you are right now did not happen by accident.
I know that statement can feel heavy at first, especially if life has dealt you some unfair cards. I am not pretending that everything in your life was chosen. A lot of things were not. There were circumstances, decisions, and situations placed on you that you had no control over. That matters. It deserves to be acknowledged.
Read MoreHey there. Who are you for yourself?
I ask that question a lot, and every time I do, I notice how uncomfortable it makes people. It used to make me uncomfortable too. We are so used to defining ourselves by roles. Parent. Partner. Caregiver. Employee. Boss. Friend. The dependable one. The strong one. The one who keeps everything moving.
Those answers come quickly.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought taking responsibility meant blaming myself for everything that went wrong. If something felt off in my life, my body, my relationships, or my work, I either beat myself up or pointed the finger somewhere else. Neither one ever helped.
Read MoreHey there. There is a quiet way people lose themselves, and it rarely looks dramatic.
It usually starts with good intentions. You want to help. You want to be supportive. You want to make things easier for the people around you. If you have spent years being the dependable one, the accommodating one, the one who keeps things running, this probably feels familiar.
Read MoreHey there. There is a moment that shows up when you start doing things differently. It might be changing how you eat after years of dieting. It might be lifting weights in a way that finally feels supportive instead of punishing. It might be stepping away from extremes and deciding you want something calmer and more sustainable. That moment often comes with confusion from other people.
Read MoreHey there. There is a moment that shows up any time you start something new or return to something after time away. It feels awkward. Unsteady. Almost like you do not belong. Most people label that feeling as imposter syndrome and immediately assume it means something is wrong.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought having a solid plan meant having control. If I could map things out clearly enough, stick to the plan, and follow it step by step, everything would work out exactly the way it was supposed to. That belief showed up everywhere in my life, especially in fitness and weight loss.
Read MoreHey there. I want to ask you a simple question. What are you avoiding?
I am not asking this in a dramatic way. I am asking it because the thing you keep pushing aside is not neutral. It is quietly taking up space in your head. It shows up in your thoughts when things get quiet. It shows up in your energy. It shows up in the way you make decisions, even when you pretend it is not there.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought there was something wrong with me. I had interests, goals, and ambitions that did not line up with what most people around me seemed to want. In fitness, in work, and in life, I constantly felt like I was trying to squeeze myself into a version that made other people more comfortable.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I believed that fitness and weight loss were mostly about doing the right things. Eat better. Exercise more. Stay consistent. If I could just line up the habits, the results would eventually take care of themselves.
Read MoreHey there. I talk a lot about perception because it shapes far more than most people realize. How you see yourself, your progress, and your ability to change quietly becomes the life you live. This is true in fitness, but it is just as true in your career, relationships, and confidence.
Read MoreHey there. There is a phrase I come back to often because it applies to fitness, weight loss, and life just as much as anything else. You create your own reality.
That does not mean pretending everything is fine or forcing yourself to find a silver lining when something genuinely hurts. Some situations are heavy. Some seasons are frustrating. Some days feel like too much. But what you choose to see, believe, and reinforce shapes how you move through those moments.
Read MoreHey there. There are a lot of ways we learn in life. Sometimes we learn by doing something once and realizing that was enough. Sometimes we repeat the same mistake over and over until we finally hit a breaking point. Experience is a powerful teacher. But there is another way we often overlook, learning by observing other people.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, my mood decided how I saw myself. If things were going well, I felt confident and capable. If things felt hard, I questioned everything about who I was and what I was doing. What I have learned over time is that you are never as good or as bad as you think you are, especially when emotions are running high.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought progress came down to finding the right plan. The right workouts. The right way to eat. The right system that would finally make everything click. Like a lot of people, I spent years collecting information and telling myself that once I had enough of it, I would finally follow through.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought reinvention had to be loud. A big announcement. A dramatic before and after. A clear break between who I was and who I was becoming. The older I get, the more I realize that the most meaningful reinvention is usually invisible to everyone else.
Read MoreHey there. I want to ask you a question that most people avoid because it feels uncomfortable. What have you settled for?
I am not asking this from a place of judgment. I am asking it from a place of honesty. Because for a long time, especially in fitness and weight loss, I settled without admitting that I was doing it. I told myself I was stuck. I told myself it was just how things were. In reality, I was choosing something because it felt easier, familiar, or safer.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I believed that if I could just control enough things, my life would finally feel settled. My body. My schedule. My progress. My circumstances. And the longer I stayed in that mindset, the more frustrated I became.
Eventually, I had to face something uncomfortable but freeing. My life is my responsibility.
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