Hey there. When life gets hard, doubt shows up fast. It tells you that you’re not ready, not strong enough, and not capable. It piles on top of every other stressor and tries to convince you that you’re stuck. But I’m here to remind you that belief in yourself is not something you earn after months of grinding. It’s something you decide.
That decision is the foundation for everything that comes after. Your actions then start reinforcing that belief. The problem for most of us is that we’ve been reinforcing negative stories for years. When the curveballs hit, it becomes easy to slip right back into fear and insecurity. And if you’ve been carrying that fear most of your life, it’s going to try and take over the moment things feel heavy.
But here’s the good news. You have a choice. Always. You can take a step back and ask yourself... am I going to buy into fear or am I going to believe in myself?
It is all already inside of you. The confidence. The ability to navigate challenges. The resilience. But you have to choose it. If you’re waiting for action alone to deliver confidence, it’s never going to happen. That’s a huge part of the problem with the self-help industry. You’re told to just keep grinding, keep pushing, and eventually you’ll feel better. But that feeling never comes if you don’t believe in yourself first.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but belief comes before the breakthrough. It’s not fake it until you make it. It’s choose who you are and then let your actions reinforce that choice. The inside/out approach is about connecting with what’s already within you, not chasing someone else’s version of success.
If you’re working on weight loss, fitness, or just trying to build consistency in your life, this is where it starts. Take a deep breath. Step back. And decide who you want to be. Then keep choosing that version of yourself every day.
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Let’s reinforce the right beliefs together.