Hey there. For years I chased things I thought I was supposed to want. The job title, the number on the scale, the external approval. It took me a long time to realize that none of those things felt fulfilling because they weren’t really mine. They were expectations placed on me by others or by the version of myself that thought success meant looking a certain way.
Read MoreHey there. One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is that showing up almost daily is what sets you apart. It’s not about being perfect every day or pushing yourself until you burn out. It’s about taking action on the days you can, observing where you are, and checking in on where you’re headed. That process alone puts you ahead of most people who never take the time to pause and reflect.
Read MoreHey there. For most of my life, I took advice from anyone who gave it. If someone looked confident, spoke loudly, or carried themselves like they had the answers, I assumed they knew better than I did. Over time I learned the hard truth. Not all advice is good advice, and not every opinion deserves space in my head.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time I thought that taking ownership of my situation meant criticizing myself for everything I wasn’t doing well. That kind of thinking never helped me move forward. What I’ve learned is that ownership isn’t about tearing yourself down, it’s about stepping back and honestly observing where you are right now. Once you see it clearly, you can start moving in the direction that is best for you.
Read MoreHey there. One of the hardest things about building momentum is that in the moment it rarely feels like you are making progress. When you choose water in addition to soda, when you walk for ten minutes instead of sitting, when you stop eating after one serving instead of going back for more, it can feel like those things don’t matter much. But the truth is the victory is there.
Read MoreHey there. There are moments when I walk into a room and immediately start wondering if I really belong there. Maybe you’ve felt that too. You see the people around you who seem polished, confident, and in complete control, and you start questioning yourself. But here’s the truth that I’ve learned over time. The person with the perfect outfit, the big job title, or the impressive resume is often fighting the same feelings of insecurity you are.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time I thought positive thinking was the key to changing my life. I told myself that if I could just keep my mindset upbeat, everything else would fall into place. And while positivity does help, I’ve learned that real change comes from going beyond positive thinking. It’s about seeing challenges clearly, recognizing opportunities, looking for solutions, and then taking practical action.
Read MoreHey there. I used to spend so much time worrying about what other people thought of me. Every choice I made felt like it had to pass through the filter of someone else’s approval. But what I’ve realized is that when people disapprove of your life, it usually says a lot more about them than it does about you. Sometimes their disapproval has nothing to do with your choices at all. It may be that they don’t like their own life.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve heard the phrase “everything happens for a reason” more times than I can count. And while I understand the comfort that idea can bring, I don’t fully believe it. Life does teach us lessons, but not everything that happens has some grand reason behind it. Many times, it simply comes down to a choice. A choice we made, or a choice someone else made, that set things in motion.
Read MoreHey there. For much of my life I thought fitness was the destination. I believed that if I could just get to a certain weight, or build a certain level of strength, I would finally feel like the person I was supposed to be. What I’ve learned is that fitness is a great place to start the process of becoming who you choose to be, but it’s not the place to stay.
Read MoreHey there. There was a time when I thought strength was about pushing through, keeping walls up, and proving to the world that I could handle anything. What I’ve come to realize is that true strength is found in something much simpler and much harder at the same time. It’s choosing to lead with kindness and compassion regardless of what you’ve been through. That choice is not weakness, it’s courage.
Read MoreHey there. There have been times in my life where it felt like everything was stacked against me. Whether it was my physical challenges, the way I saw myself, or the constant pressure from diet culture, I often felt like the deck wasn’t just shuffled, it was tilted. And yet, I’ve learned something important. Lasting success in weight loss and life doesn’t come from having perfect circumstances. It comes from continuing to show up despite them.
Read MoreHey there. Empathy is one of the most important things I’ve developed, and the truth is, it hasn’t always come naturally. For a long time, I was so wrapped up in my own struggles, my own self doubt, and my own goals that I didn’t stop to really consider what others were going through. But I’ve learned that empathy isn’t just something you either have or you don’t. It’s a skill, and like any skill, you can practice and strengthen it.
Read MoreHey there. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to learn is how to see myself the way the people who truly love me do. For most of my life, I’ve been my own toughest critic. I’ve looked in the mirror and focused on every flaw. I’ve replayed mistakes and convinced myself that I wasn’t enough. And the truth is, those thoughts have stolen more time and energy than I’d like to admit.
Read MoreHey there. Change doesn’t happen because you find the perfect program. It doesn’t happen because the calendar says it’s Monday or the start of a new year. Change happens the moment you decide to make it. That decision is powerful. It’s the point where you stop waiting for the right time and start realizing that the right time is now.
Read MoreHey there. When it comes to health, fitness, and life in general, the most important thing I’ve learned is that you have to create your own path. For years I tried to follow what others said was the right way. The diet plans, the quick fix workouts, the endless tips and tricks. And what I found was that none of it truly stuck, because it wasn’t built for me. It was built for someone else.
Read MoreHey there. There are moments in life when you look back and think to yourself, I’ll wish I had the time back. It usually isn’t about the big things. More often than not, it’s about the hours I gave away to things that didn’t matter. The times I obsessed over the scale, or the workouts I skipped because I was too busy beating myself up mentally. I can’t get those hours or days back. But I can learn from them.
Read MoreHey there. For years my life felt like it was going sideways. I had goals and dreams but the follow through was shaky. I had setbacks that turned into seasons and in some cases those seasons turned into years. If you’ve ever felt like you lost decades of your life to mistakes, distractions, or circumstances, I want you to know you are not alone. And I also want you to know that you can come back stronger.
Read MoreHey there. There have been times in my life where I felt completely mishandled by people I trusted. It could have been something they said, something they did, or the way they chose to treat me when I was vulnerable. For a long time, I thought the only way to handle those situations was to get defensive or to replay everything in my head over and over. What I have learned is that I cannot control how others treat me, but I can control how I respond and how I carry myself forward.
Read MoreHey there. Failure used to terrify me. I thought it meant I was doing something wrong or that I wasn’t good enough. Over the years though, I’ve come to see failure differently. Failure is actually proof that I’m trying. It means I’m stepping into the unknown, pushing boundaries, and figuring out what works for me. That shift has been life changing.
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