Hey there. I used to think that if I just kept moving, kept distracting myself, and kept piling on new goals, I could outrun the feelings that made me uncomfortable. What I’ve learned over the years is that you cannot outrun yourself. If you are not calm on the inside, the chaos always finds a way to catch up. It might take years, even decades, but eventually that inner noise demands your attention.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve heard the phrase “everything happens for a reason” more times than I can count. And while I understand the comfort that idea can bring, I don’t fully believe it. Life does teach us lessons, but not everything that happens has some grand reason behind it. Many times, it simply comes down to a choice. A choice we made, or a choice someone else made, that set things in motion.
Read MoreHey there. You’ve probably heard it before. “The gym is my therapy.” I’ve even said it myself. And while I understand where that phrase comes from, I want to be clear about something. The gym is a powerful tool for your mental and emotional health, but it is not therapy.
Read MoreHey there. Sometimes we need a break. That’s something I was reminded of recently. I had a couple of days where I just took a step back. My usual morning routine is something I do seven days a week with only minor tweaks on the weekends. But around lunchtime Friday, I made the decision to chill. Saturday was more of the same. Family was visiting and I gave myself permission to slow down.
Read MoreHey there. I’m wearing a shirt right now that says The Gym AND Therapy “get yours here”. That wording matters because, for me, both are important. When it comes to calming my mind, focusing my thoughts, and releasing pent-up energy, the gym is one of the best mental health tools I have. But it’s not the only one.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve always been someone who feels better when I’m moving. Even when I’m sitting still, working on something that needs my attention, there’s this underlying feeling that I’d be better off if I just got up and took a quick walk. Exercise, activity, movement—whatever you want to call it—has a noticeable impact on how I feel mentally and emotionally.
Read MoreHey there. Have you ever stopped to think about how much time you spend on your phone? I don’t mean just the moments you’re intentionally checking emails or sending a quick message. I’m talking about the endless scrolling, the notifications that keep buzzing, and the constant pressure to stay connected.
Read MoreHey there. At some point, you have to take action and move forward, even when you're still processing what you've been through and how you feel. It’s not easy, but staying stuck isn’t a solution either. This is something I’ve come to understand through my own experiences and from conversations I’ve had with others, particularly men, about mental and emotional health.
Read MoreHey there. When we talk about mental health for men, the conversation often centers on "awareness." But awareness is only the first step. What’s truly transformative—and, frankly, what takes more courage—is acknowledgment. Not just acknowledging mental health as a concept, but personally recognizing and working through your own emotions, struggles, and experiences.
Read MoreHey there. We all experience emotional pain—whether it's from life circumstances, self-doubt, or the relentless pressures we face. The question is, what do we do with that pain? For a long time, I internalized mine. I used it to tear myself down, piece by piece, from the inside out. Maybe you’ve done the same. Perhaps you’ve let your inner critic dictate how you see yourself, your worth, and your contributions to the world.
Read MoreHey there. As men, we’ve been conditioned to believe that strength is synonymous with stoicism—keeping our emotions bottled up and presenting a tough exterior no matter what life throws at us. This belief has been passed down for generations, often leaving us feeling isolated, misunderstood, and emotionally stunted.
Read MoreHey there. I've come to realize that our journey through life starts and ends in our minds. Every thought we entertain, every belief we hold, shapes the reality we experience. It's so easy to get caught up in external events—work deadlines, social obligations, the constant buzz of notifications—that we often neglect the one thing that influences everything else: our mindset.
Read MoreHey there. After taking a break, I’m heading back to therapy.
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