Hey there. I’ve been in the fitness industry for a couple of decades, and I’ve seen how often it positions weight loss as the ultimate goal. The message has always been that if you just lose the weight, you’ll finally feel confident, happy, and worthy. But I’ve come to see that the real story is different. Weight loss is not the goal. It’s the byproduct of the actions you take and the mindset you choose to build.
Read MoreHey there. For much of my life, looking in the mirror was a chance to pick myself apart. Sometimes it was tied to stepping on the scale. If the number wasn’t what I wanted, my reflection seemed worse. If the number went down, maybe I felt a little better, but it was still hard to look without finding something to criticize.
Read MoreHey there. For as long as I can remember, there have been “body standards” that everyone was told to chase. When I was younger, I didn’t think much about where those standards came from. I just knew they were everywhere. On TV, in magazines, in commercials. Big shoulders, defined arms, a v-shape, tree trunk legs and a six pack were coming through loud and clear. Now, the standards of the day for men, women, everyone are all over social media. But here’s the thing. These “ideals” aren’t some natural truth about what’s beautiful. Most of them started in a marketing meeting. A team of people decided that a certain look would sell a product, show, or brand, and then that look got pushed out into the world until it became “the standard.”
Read MoreHey there. When I ask clients what they see in the mirror they usually describe a flaw before they describe a feature. I used to do the same thing. Years of comments about how I could look better if I tweaked this or shrank that taught me to scan for problems. Add the brutal body standards of the early two thousands and I became an expert at tearing myself down. Sound familiar? If so I want to invite you into a practice that feels strange at first yet becomes a daily anchor for calm confidence.
Read MoreHey there. I want to remind you of something that can completely shift how you view your weight loss journey. You are your own body standard. Not the version of you from five years ago. Not someone you follow online. Not the expectations coming from the fitness industry. Just you.
Read MoreHey there. Let’s talk about the voice. You know the one. The voice that creeps in late at night when you're staring at the ceiling wondering why this is still so hard. That voice that tells you that you should have figured this out by now. That you’re still behind. That no matter how much weight you’ve lost or how hard you’ve worked, it’s not enough.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve talked with so many people who feel like they have to beat themselves up in order to make progress. Like they won’t grow unless they criticize everything they see in the mirror. And I get it. Because for most of us, that negative voice has been there for years. It becomes familiar. But just because it’s familiar doesn’t mean it’s helpful.
Read MoreHey there. There’s something I want to ask you. What have you missed out on because of how you feel about your body? Maybe you skipped a photo. Maybe you avoided a vacation meal or stressed about workouts while you were supposed to be relaxing. If you’ve been stuck in your head because of body image, I want you to know you’re not alone.
Read MoreHey there. I used to think the goal was to get to the “after.” Like once I hit a certain number on the scale or took that perfect transformation photo, everything would just click. I’d love my body. I’d feel confident. I’d finally be enough. But the truth is... even when I hit those numbers, that feeling didn’t show up the way I expected.
Read MoreHey there. When you hear the term “body dysmorphia,” what comes to mind? For a lot of people, especially those going through a weight loss journey, it gets tossed around quickly. But body dysmorphic disorder is a real mental health condition, and it needs to be taken seriously. I’m not a therapist or a doctor, and most people you hear using this term online aren’t either. Still, I want to talk about the emotional side of this because how you feel about yourself matters.
Read MoreWhat do you see when you look in the mirror?
I’ve asked myself that question more times than I can count. And for years, the answer wasn’t great. I would pick myself apart, zoom in on every perceived flaw, and walk away feeling worse than I did before. The worst part? I thought that was normal.
Read MoreHey there. For years I chased body standards that were never meant for me. I compared myself to the images I saw in magazines, online, and even to the versions of me I thought I needed to become. And like many of you, I told myself that once I hit a certain weight or looked a certain way, I’d finally be happy.
That moment never came.
Read MoreHey there. For years, I never felt like enough. No matter how lean I was, how defined my muscles looked, or how much my body changed, it was never enough. I remember being obsessed with body fat percentages. I carried one of those handheld testers around in the early 2000s when I worked at a gym, and I would check my readings constantly. Even when the numbers looked good, even when I knew I was walking around at a pretty lean ten to fifteen percent body fat, it still wasn’t enough. There was always someone leaner, someone more muscular, someone I thought looked better than me.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve been thinking a lot about how social media fits into our health and fitness journeys. Not just as a place to find workouts or get motivation, but how it actually affects the way we see ourselves. The scroll can feel endless. And most days, it's filled with reminders of what we’re not, what we’re not doing, and what we should be chasing.
Read MoreHey there. I’ve spent years unlearning what I thought I had to believe about my body. It used to be that every glance in the mirror became a chance to tear myself down. I’d start with my reflection and work inward, picking apart what made me different and assigning value—or lack of it—based on how I looked. But what if you didn’t do that anymore? What if you could quiet those thoughts instead?
Read MoreHey there. Fitness marketing has a way of making us believe that we should be constantly chasing an ideal body. The industry thrives on making us feel like we are out of control and then selling us solutions to fix that feeling. Whether it’s a diet plan, a workout program, or a supplement, the message is always the same, you need this to finally achieve the body you want.
Read MoreHey there. Social media can be a tricky place when it comes to body image. With so many curated photos, highlight reels, and fitness transformations filling our feeds, it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up. If scrolling makes you feel self-conscious, frustrated, or just not good enough, you’re not alone. But here’s the good news, you have control over your experience.
Read MoreHey there. Body image should be personal. You should be your own body standard, not an idea created by someone else. Yet, throughout life, most of us have tried to conform to different beauty or fitness ideals without even realizing it. Where do these standards come from?
Read MoreHey there. Body dysmorphia is like a ghost that lingers, no matter how much you try to move forward. It’s something I’ve seen over and over in the fitness space. People lose weight, transform their bodies, and yet, when they look in the mirror, they still see their old selves staring back. It’s not just a passing thought. It’s a deep-seated perception that refuses to let go.
Read MoreHey there. If you’re reading this, I want you to know something right off the bat, you’re not behind. You’re not stuck. You’re exactly where you need to be right now.
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