Hey there. Body dysmorphia is like a ghost that lingers, no matter how much you try to move forward. It’s something I’ve seen over and over in the fitness space. People lose weight, transform their bodies, and yet, when they look in the mirror, they still see their old selves staring back. It’s not just a passing thought. It’s a deep-seated perception that refuses to let go.
For many, this struggle starts early. Maybe you were told as a kid that you’d be more attractive or happier if you just lost the weight. You carried that belief with you for years, believing that your value was tied to the number on the scale. So you worked at it. You tried different diets, followed workout programs, maybe even had surgery or took medication. And then, one day, you reached your goal. But instead of feeling free, you found yourself looking in the mirror and seeing the same person.
How does that happen? How can you completely change your body yet still feel like nothing has changed?
Because the outside never fixes what’s happening inside.
We’re taught that confidence, happiness, and self-worth come from looking a certain way. If that were true, I wouldn’t have anything to talk about. Instead, I have these conversations every day because it actually works the other way around. It’s an inside-out process.
If you have ever looked in the mirror and seen a version of yourself that doesn’t match reality, it’s not because of the reflection. It’s because of everything that version of you represents. That old version is tied to years of feeling less than, of believing you weren’t enough. So even when the weight is gone, those feelings stay. And when they don’t match the success you were supposed to feel, your brain scrambles for an explanation.
It’s easy to blame the reflection.
If you still see your old self in the mirror, it’s not because your body hasn’t changed. It’s because you haven’t given yourself permission to accept and love every version of you that existed before now. You were taught to reject that version. To distance yourself from it. But it keeps chasing you down.
So what’s the answer?
Start looking for the good in those past versions of yourself. The next time you see an old picture that makes you cringe, go back and think about what was happening in your life at that time. What were your interests? What brought you joy? What challenges were you overcoming? If you look deep enough, you’ll find that the person you’ve been running from had value all along.
If you can start to appreciate and accept every phase of your journey, those ghosts will stop haunting you. Body dysmorphia doesn’t go away by changing your body. It goes away when you decide that every version of yourself deserved love, not just the one you worked so hard to create.
It’s time to stop fighting your past and start embracing it. If you’re ready to truly work through this inside-out process, join The YLF Experience today. Let’s work on this together.