Hey there. I’ve spent years unlearning what I thought I had to believe about my body. It used to be that every glance in the mirror became a chance to tear myself down. I’d start with my reflection and work inward, picking apart what made me different and assigning value—or lack of it—based on how I looked. But what if you didn’t do that anymore? What if you could quiet those thoughts instead?
That’s where body neutrality comes in. It’s not about loving your body all the time or pretending you don’t have negative thoughts. It’s about building a different relationship. One where your default isn’t to criticize yourself, but to observe those thoughts when they pop up... and let them pass. You don’t have to chase every thought. You can sit with them. You can let them go.
For me, body neutrality means creating space to feel calm in my head and in my body. I’m not trying to silence all insecurity, because that’s not realistic. And honestly, there are times when I want to look in the mirror and celebrate what I see. That’s important too. But most of the time, I’m aiming for peace. For quiet. For neutral.
I’ve built that through daily habits that reinforce an inside/out approach. There are four actions I do each day that strengthen the relationship I have with myself. I sit outdoors without distractions and just be with my thoughts. I journal for five minutes to get everything in my head out on paper. I spend a minute saying positive things to myself in the mirror. And I do something creative—something that brings me joy. That last one looks different for everyone, but it matters just as much.
The more I do this, the more my thoughts about my body soften. I don’t spiral when something negative pops up. I see it, I acknowledge it, and I keep going. That’s what I want for you too.
If you want to explore this approach more deeply, check out The YLF Experience. It’s where I help you build these habits into your own life, your own way. And if this message spoke to you, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Let’s keep working on this together.