Since jumping back into the fitness industry at full speed, a couple of months ago, I’ve noticed that most of your trainers, coaches, and any other fitness professionals address questions around body image with logical statements like “ No one else is really paying attention to you, so just do your thing.” or “ you just need to get past this because you’re not the person you are when you started your weight loss journey.”
Here’s the thing, those statements aren’t necessarily incorrect, but what drives someone to think them is on an emotional level how they see themselves on the inside.
Our relationship with food comes back to how we feel about ourselves deep down as a person.
When someone’s trying to lose weight, they’re not only trying to create new habits and routines but more importantly, they have to be able to connect with themselves and work through everything that they have been carrying emotionally, in many cases their entire life.
The saddest thing to see is someone doing all this work to change what’s on the outside because that’s something they’ve desperately wanted for a long time, only to see them win the weight loss game but soon realize that they don’t feel any different on the inside.
Some of them then feel guilty because they chased something for so long thinking it would make them happy but instead they feel empty to some level.
This isn’t just a weight loss industry issue. This is chasing anything outside of yourself thinking it’s going to fill the void and remove the pain.
Your best bet is to start reconnecting with yourself now and work through everything you feel while you are chasing after all of those goals.
I know you can do it. 💪🏻
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