Hey there. I think a lot about what people pick up from my content. Not just the things I say directly, but the subtle things that show up over time. We all absorb more than we realize. When you follow someone or a brand or a message, you naturally gravitate toward certain things. Some are obvious. Others are quieter but end up having the biggest impact. That is what I want to talk about in this post. What you are getting from me. What I hope you are taking with you. And what I hope sticks long after you close the app.
Read MoreHey there. I have been thinking a lot about accountability and access lately. Not accountability in the way most people talk about it where you lean on someone else to keep you in line. I am talking about being accountable to yourself. Being able to look yourself in the eye and trust that you follow through because of who you are, not because someone else is watching.
Read MoreHey there. I want you to be proud of who you are because I want the same thing for myself. Not the version of you that you think you are supposed to be. Not the version shaped by expectations or pressures or past labels. I mean the real you. The one you sometimes lose track of while trying to hold everything together. The one who deserves your time, your attention, and your appreciation.
Read MoreHey there. I talk a lot about standards these days. Not the kind of standards that come from comparison or pressure or trying to keep up with what everyone else is doing. I am talking about the standards you set for yourself. The ones that help you grow from the inside/out and build the life you actually want to live.
Read MoreHey there. I have spent a lot of time around fitness, food, and marketing, and one thing I have learned is that most people never stop to ask who actually benefits from the way they track their food. For years I thought I was benefiting the most when I tracked calories or macros. It felt like I was in control. It felt like I finally had something predictable to hold on to. But the more time I spent working in marketing and watching how the food industry works, the more I realized that the biggest winner in all of this was not me. It was them.
Read MoreHey there. I have a question for you, and this is not one I want you to answer out loud. Who or what offends you? I am not asking because I want the details. I am asking because I want you to pay attention to what lights you up inside. I have learned that when something offends me, there is almost always a deeper reason beneath the surface. It is rarely just about the moment that is in front of me. It usually connects to a part of myself that I have not fully let go of yet.
Read MoreHey there. I talk a lot about peace these days. Not surface level peace. Not the kind you chase from one distraction to the next. I mean the kind of internal calm that starts to show up when you stop trying to prove your worth to everyone else and finally start trusting yourself. This is something I have been working through, and if you are like me, you might have spent most of your life feeling more familiar with chaos than calm.
Read MoreHey there. I spent most of my life chasing external worth without even realizing it. I got praised early on for doing things the right way, for performing, for achieving, for being productive. Maybe you can relate. Somewhere along the way we learned that if we fit in and did what others expected, we would be accepted. So we watched what everyone else was doing. We matched our actions to theirs. We tried not to rock the boat.
Read MoreHey there. I used to think there was one big moment that made me feel like I wasn’t enough. One moment where something happened or someone said something and that was it. The truth is that feeling this way usually comes from a lifetime of small experiences. Little comments. Quiet disappointments. Rejections that seemed minor at the time. They collect in the background of your mind until they build a story that feels impossible to shake.
Read MoreHey there. I used to spend a lot of time comparing my progress to other people.
I would look at what they were doing, how fast they were moving, and how much they seemed to achieve. And every time I did that, I felt like I was behind. Like I was not doing enough. Like there was something wrong with my pace. It took me a long time to realize that none of this was true. I was not behind. I was running my own race.
Read MoreHey there. I spent a lot of years talking about what I wanted without actually doing anything about it. I told myself the timing wasn’t right or I needed to feel more motivated or I needed the perfect plan. All that did was keep me stuck in the same patterns that gave me the same results. Looking back, I wasn’t lacking the ability to take action. I was just wasting time convincing myself that I needed something more than what I already had.
Read MoreHey there. One of the most freeing things I’ve learned over time is that most people only know parts of me, and that’s okay. It used to bother me when someone got the wrong impression, especially if I felt like they misunderstood who I really was or what I was trying to do. I’d want to explain myself. I’d want to fix their perception. But that was wasted energy. People are going to think what they want to think, no matter how much I try to clarify or prove otherwise.
Read MoreHey there. I spent years waiting for the right time to start. The right time to eat better. The right time to get back into a workout routine. The right time to finally go after something I wanted in life. But the truth I eventually learned is that there is no right time. There’s only now. Every time I waited for things to calm down or for the perfect plan to fall into place, I was really just putting off taking responsibility for my life.
Read MoreHey there. There’s something freeing about realizing that most people only ever enjoy the idea of you. The version that fits into their expectations, their comfort zone, or their perception of who you are supposed to be. And honestly, that’s okay. You don’t owe the full version of yourself to everyone.
Read MoreHey there. I don’t want you to look back one day and realize you spent years trying to become someone you thought you were supposed to be instead of embracing who you already are. I’ve seen too many people chase the perfect plan, the perfect body, or the perfect moment, only to end up feeling like they wasted time. Fitness is supposed to help you live more fully, not make you feel like you’re constantly falling short.
Read MoreHey there. There’s a point in every journey where you realize that nobody can hand you the exact roadmap for your life. That’s true in fitness, and it’s true in everything else. You can listen to advice, gather information, and even follow someone’s plan for a while. But eventually, you have to trust yourself enough to decide what’s right for you. That’s where real progress starts.
Read MoreHey there. When most people start a fitness journey, they focus on the tactics. What workout should I do? What foods should I eat? How many steps should I take each day? Those are all valid questions, but the longer I’ve been doing this, the more I’ve realized that the thought process driving those tactics “the personal philosophy behind them” is what really shapes long-term success.
Read MoreHey there. It’s taken me a long time to accept that some people just won’t like me. Not because I did anything wrong. Not because I’m a bad person. But simply because of who I am and how I live. That used to bother me a lot. I would replay conversations in my head and wonder what I could’ve said differently or how I could’ve presented myself in a way that made them like me more. But no matter how hard I tried, there were always going to be people who didn’t see me the way I saw myself.
Read MoreHey there. For a long time, I thought strength meant keeping a wall up. I told myself that if someone hurt me, the best way to deal with it was to show them I didn’t care or to find a way to make them feel what I felt. But the truth is, that kind of reaction never healed anything. It only made the pain louder inside me.
Read MoreHey there. There was a point where I thought the next achievement would finally make me feel enough. The next goal weight, the next PR in the gym, the next work milestone, the next version of myself that somehow felt more acceptable. But no matter how many boxes I checked, that feeling never came the way I expected. It wasn’t because I wasn’t progressing. It was because I was trying to earn something that had always been mine.
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