Hey there. It’s taken me a long time to accept that some people just won’t like me. Not because I did anything wrong. Not because I’m a bad person. But simply because of who I am and how I live. That used to bother me a lot. I would replay conversations in my head and wonder what I could’ve said differently or how I could’ve presented myself in a way that made them like me more. But no matter how hard I tried, there were always going to be people who didn’t see me the way I saw myself.
Over time, I realized that how people see me has a lot more to do with how they see themselves. Maybe I remind them of something they wish they had done. Maybe my confidence makes them uncomfortable because they haven’t found theirs yet. Maybe they’re struggling with their own insecurities, and instead of working through them, it’s easier to project them onto someone else. None of that has anything to do with me.
Fitness taught me a lot about this. You’ll meet people who question your goals, downplay your effort, or make comments about how “lucky” you are for your results. They see your progress, but they don’t see the early mornings, the consistent effort, or the mental battles that go into every step forward. When you start showing up differently, it makes people reflect on their own habits, and that can be uncomfortable for them. But their discomfort isn’t your responsibility to fix.
The same applies outside of fitness. Whether it’s your career, your relationships, or just how you carry yourself, not everyone will celebrate your wins. Some will judge, others will distance themselves, and a few might even try to bring you down. It’s easy to take that personally, but it’s rarely personal. Their reaction is a reflection of where they are in their journey, not who you are in yours.
What matters most is that you stay grounded in who you are. You keep doing what aligns with your values and your peace. You keep living from the inside/out, even when it’s misunderstood. Because the people who are meant to be in your life will see your heart for what it is. They’ll appreciate your growth, not resent it.
You don’t need to convince anyone of your worth. Just keep being yourself and moving forward. The right people will find you.
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