Let People Think What They Want

Hey there. One of the most freeing things I’ve learned over time is that most people only know parts of me, and that’s okay. It used to bother me when someone got the wrong impression, especially if I felt like they misunderstood who I really was or what I was trying to do. I’d want to explain myself. I’d want to fix their perception. But that was wasted energy. People are going to think what they want to think, no matter how much I try to clarify or prove otherwise.

We live in a world where everyone forms opinions quickly. A few posts, a short clip, or one comment and suddenly people believe they’ve got you figured out. But they don’t. What they actually see is a filtered version of you, pieced together from their own assumptions. And truthfully, that’s fine. Not everyone needs full access to who I am.

When people talk about knowing their worth, it’s easy to make that sound like a statement. “I know my worth.” But it’s not just about saying it. It’s about enforcing it. For me, that means being selective about who gets my time, energy, and attention. Some people are just not meant to be part of the inner circle. They might like the idea of me, and I can accept that. But only a few people get to know the full version.

The same thing shows up in fitness. People will always have opinions about your progress, your pace, or how you choose to take care of yourself. They’ll say you’re doing too much or not enough. But they don’t know your body, your mindset, or what you’re working through. When you stop trying to get everyone’s approval and instead start doing what aligns with your standards, your journey gets calmer and a lot more fulfilling.

What I’ve found is that the smaller the group of people who really know you, the more peace you feel. You no longer carry the pressure of performing or defending yourself. You simply live. You focus on being the person you’re working to become from the inside/out.

It’s not always easy to let go of the need to be understood. But it’s worth it. Because once you stop trying to make everyone see your value, you finally start to feel it for yourself. And that’s the kind of confidence that can’t be taken away.

If you’re ready to start living life on your terms, trusting yourself, and focusing on the people and priorities that truly matter, join The YLF Experience. You already have what it takes. Let’s build from the inside/out together.