Hey there. Let’s talk about people faking their healing journeys. Now, I know it’s a loaded topic, but it’s worth addressing because it’s an easy trap to fall into.
Over the last decade, we’ve seen more conversations about trauma, therapy, and emotional health, which is incredible. But, like many things, when the internet grabs hold of these ideas, they can become buzzwords—"healing journey" included. Words like trauma, narcissist, and self-care can feel diluted when social media amplifies them, often turning them into niches or cliches.
Don’t get me wrong, these concepts are very real. But it’s also easy to perform growth instead of experiencing it. You can check all the boxes: go to therapy, journal daily, share your story on social media but only you know if it’s rooted in genuine healing or something else.
The Danger of One-Sided Narratives
Here’s where it gets tricky, it’s easy to tell your story in a way that paints you as the victim or the hero, depending on what you want people to believe. Social media lets us curate these narratives, amplifying the parts of ourselves we’re comfortable showing while hiding the rest. And while sharing your story can be therapeutic, it can also reinforce a one-sided perspective.
When we focus too much on being “right” about our past, especially if that means making someone else “wrong” we risk getting stuck. We can build entire identities or brands around these narratives, but deep down, we know the truth.
The question is: are you working through your past, or are you just trying to play the part?
The Role of Therapy
I’m a huge believer in therapy, but here’s the thing—it only works if you’re open to it. A quality relationship with a therapist means they’ll challenge you, ask tough questions, and help you see things you might not want to. However, even therapy can become performative if you’re not careful. You can attend every session, do all the homework, and still avoid the deeper work if you’re not being honest with yourself.
Social Media Personas
Authenticity online is tricky. In my opinion, it means amplifying real parts of who you are. But let’s face it: sometimes, with some people it’s just a mask. A version of themselves they think others want to see. Only they know if that persona aligns with their true self or if it’s masking something deeper.
The key is to connect with yourself. When you take the time to understand why you’re doing what you’re doing, you can call yourself out constructively. Much like a therapist might, you can start to see when you’re falling into old patterns or telling yourself half-truths.
A Call to Self-Reflection
This isn’t about judgment, it’s a call to observe what’s going on and, if needed, change course. Maybe you’re reading this and realizing, “Wow, that’s me.” If that’s true and you’re okay with it…own it. Might want to be selective with who you share that insight with but you do owe it to yourself to know.
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