Hey there. Owning your past is not about ignoring it, rewriting it, or pretending it never happened. It’s about understanding that the experiences you’ve had—the good, the painful, the traumatic—are all part of your story. And that story, while difficult at times, made you the resilient person you are today.
Let me say this upfront. If you are even thinking that you might need professional help to work through something you’ve been carrying, please talk to someone. A general practitioner. A licensed counselor. Someone qualified to help you sort through the layers. Don’t rely on social media or strangers for support that should come from a trained professional. Getting help is one of the most powerful forms of ownership there is.
Now, the idea of "breaking up" with your past sounds great in theory. Clean slate. Fresh start. But it doesn’t really work that way. Your past doesn’t just disappear. It resurfaces. Sometimes when you least expect it. The real power comes in owning it. Because the version of you that survived everything up to this point—they are tough. They are resourceful. And they know how to keep going.
That version of you is your greatest coach. You are your greatest coach. And when you start having conversations with yourself with that level of empathy, patience, and strength, your whole perspective changes.
Let’s talk about one common piece of the past many of us share—coping with food. Whether it’s binge eating, emotional eating, or just a constant battle of shame and guilt around food, it’s real. And here’s the truth. A lot of the food we struggle with is designed to be addictive. It’s engineered for overconsumption. You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re human.
But you do have control. It starts with ownership. You own your past decisions. You own your future ones. You acknowledge the days you overdid it. You don’t need to punish yourself for them. You decide to move forward. Maybe that means tossing out the rest of the cookies or spacing out your servings or finding another way to cope. Maybe you play a game. Go for a walk. Text a friend. You find another outlet that gives your mind and body a break without making you feel worse.
Food might always be a comfort mechanism for you. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you aware. And that awareness is what lets you take control.
You are not defined by your past. You are not defined by the opinions of others. And no matter what anyone has told you—what names they called you, what labels they gave you—those are not yours to carry.
You have more control than you think. You are more resilient than you realize. And when you start coaching yourself from that place of ownership, everything changes.
If you want guidance and a supportive space to work through all of this, I invite you to join me in The YLF Experience. You deserve support that meets you where you are and helps you move forward.