Hey there. Letting go is one of the hardest things to do. As you start connecting with yourself, you begin to notice things that no longer fit…habits, thought patterns, even certain relationships. This is a natural part of growth, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Change happens whether we want it to or not, and resisting it can leave us feeling powerless. Instead of fighting against it, we need to learn how to navigate it in a way that keeps us moving forward.
The first step is simple, just observe. You don’t need to make immediate decisions or judge yourself. Just pay attention to what no longer aligns with who you are and where you’re going. This can be difficult, especially when it involves people. It’s easy to hold others to the same standards we set for ourselves, but that often leads to frustration. Instead of focusing on what someone else is or isn’t doing, shift your attention inward. What do you need? What changes will help you grow?
Letting go doesn’t always mean cutting people out of your life completely. In most cases, it’s about adjusting access. You get to decide how much energy and time you give to certain relationships. The same goes for habits and routines. Maybe you’ve identified as a certain type of person for a long time, and now you’re realizing that version of you no longer fits. That’s okay. Growth requires us to release outdated identities and make room for something new.
A big part of this process is letting go without guilt or shame. You don’t need to justify why something no longer serves you. Change is a natural part of life, and just because something worked for you in the past doesn’t mean it has to stay forever. Acknowledge any emotions that come up, but don’t let them hold you back. The fear of change is often just a fear of the unknown. The more you embrace it, the more you’ll see it as an opportunity rather than a loss.
Once you start releasing things, ask yourself “what fits in my life now?” It’s not always a direct swap of one habit for another or one relationship for another. Instead, it’s about creating space for things that truly align with you. This shift in mindset allows you to approach change with optimism rather than fear.
Change is never easy, but it is necessary. The more you practice observing, adjusting, and letting go, the more natural it will feel. If you’re ready to take the next step and work through this process with guidance, join The YLF Experience. It’s all about developing a strong inside-out mindset so you can confidently move forward.