Hey there. Right now, exactly where you are in your fitness journey, you are at someone else’s goal. You may not feel like you’ve “made it” yet, but there are hundreds, if not thousands of people, who would love to be in your position.
That’s something to think about the next time you feel like you haven’t done enough.
Why Goal Weight Won’t Make You Happy
A lot of people believe that hitting a certain number on the scale or looking a certain way will finally bring happiness. But here’s the truth—it won’t.
I’ve seen it time and time again. People reach their goal weight, feel good for a couple of days, and then immediately start chasing the next thing. The excitement fades, and they’re left wondering why they don’t feel as fulfilled as they expected.
Happiness doesn’t come from a number. It comes from how you see yourself and how you feel about the life you’re living.
Start by Accepting Yourself
If self-love feels too far off, start with self-acceptance. Find something—anything—that you like about yourself. Maybe it’s a silly hobby, a game you love, or even the fact that you can now lift heavier weights or walk longer than before.
It doesn’t have to be fitness-related. I once got excited about growing an awesome mustache, just because I had never done it before. Find something about yourself to celebrate.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Social Media
Social media makes it easy to compare yourself to other people’s highlights. But that’s not your journey.
Your goal should never be to look like someone else. Your goal should be to look in the mirror, acknowledge where you are, and say, "We’re going to get through this together."
Instead of focusing on how far you have to go, recognize how far you’ve come. Think about the things you couldn’t do when you started but can now. That’s real progress.
Make the Work Easier by Owning Who You Are
When you accept yourself, the work gets easier. You become more patient, and you stop chasing an idea of happiness that doesn’t exist.
The next time you feel stuck, remember:
✔ You are already at someone else’s goal.
✔ There are people of all shapes and sizes who own who they are.
✔ Confidence starts by choosing to like yourself first.
It may feel fake at first, but over time, you start to believe it. And when you believe it, you free yourself from the cycle of chasing happiness through weight loss.
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