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What Are You Good At?

 

Hey there. Let me ask you something…what are you good at?

When I ask this question, most people either pause or immediately focus on their weaknesses. They dismiss their strengths or downplay their abilities, often believing they don’t excel in any area. That mindset is a problem. Recognizing your strengths is foundational to building a better relationship with yourself, and it's something you need to start doing today.

If you’re struggling to identify your strengths, let’s take a step back. Think about the things you enjoy doing. Often, we convince ourselves that we’re not “good enough” at something because we’ve attached arbitrary benchmarks to it. Maybe you believe you need to reach a certain level before you can confidently say, “I’m good at this.” Here’s the truth: you’re better at those things than you think.

Being the type of person you aspire to be starts with a decision. You decide, and then you reinforce that decision through action. However, if you rely solely on actions without a foundation of self-belief, you may end up feeling like an imposter. That’s why it’s crucial to recognize your strengths first—it shifts your mindset and builds your confidence.

A Simple Exercise to See Your Strengths

Here’s what I want you to do:

  1. List Your Strengths: Break your life into categories. On the left side of a sheet of paper (or a digital document), create sections like personality, work, relationships, and interests. Under each category, write down your strengths. For example, under “personality,” maybe you’re empathetic or resourceful. Under “work,” you might be a great problem-solver or highly organized.

  2. Be Specific: If you think, “I’m organized,” ask yourself, “What exactly am I good at organizing?” The more specific you can be, the clearer your strengths will become.

  3. Identify Areas for Growth: On the right side of the paper, list areas where you want to improve. The goal isn’t to dwell on these but to acknowledge them as opportunities for growth.

When you complete this exercise, two things will happen. First, you’ll see how many strengths you actually have because you’re actively looking for them. Second, you’ll gain clarity on where you can improve without being overly critical of yourself.

Why Focus on Strengths?

Most people fixate on their weaknesses far more than their strengths. This creates an unbalanced view of themselves and reinforces self-doubt. By shifting your focus to your strengths, you build a foundation of self-confidence and begin to redefine how you see failure.

Speaking of failure, let’s talk about redefining it. Failure isn’t a label you should place on yourself, it’s simply an experience. How you respond to failure shapes your identity, your mindset, and your life. The next time you feel like you’ve failed, ask yourself: What did I learn? How can I use this to move forward?

We’ll dive deeper into redefining failure in a future post, but for now, I want you to focus on what you’re good at. Take the time to list your strengths, and let that be your starting point for building a better relationship with yourself.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness and embrace the inside-out approach to health, fitness, and life, I’d love to work with you. Through The YLF Experience, I provide personalized guidance to help you align your goals with your values and build a sustainable approach to personal growth.

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Let’s work together to uncover your strengths and create a life you love.

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