Hey there. You have to trust your perspective. That’s something I’ve learned through my own journey, and it’s something I talk about often because it matters in every area of life. But before you can trust your perspective, you need to actually figure out what it is.
That might sound simple, but let’s be real, it’s not. We’re constantly surrounded by other people’s opinions, feedback, and advice. Sometimes, those voices become so loud and repetitive that they start to feel like our own beliefs. You hear something enough times, and suddenly it feels like common sense. But deep down, you know when something doesn’t sit right. You just know when it’s not working for you.
This comes up a lot in weight loss and fitness. We’re fed the same messages over and over, “calories in, calories out” or “it’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle.” Sure, these statements have some truth, but they’re surface-level truths. When you hear them repeatedly without any real depth or context, they can feel empty, even condescending. They don’t address the real struggles of trying to change your body, your habits, or your mindset.
What ends up happening? You feel stuck on this hamster wheel of chasing results, taking breaks when you’re burned out, and then jumping back into another plan. It feels like that’s just how it’s supposed to be, like it’s your “normal.” But I don’t believe that’s how it has to be. And deep down, you probably don’t either.
It’s not just about fitness. This pattern of accepting things as they are because “that’s how it’s always been” shows up in every aspect of life. The real challenge is cutting through all that noise and connecting with what you believe. It means listening to that small voice inside, the one that often gets drowned out by distractions, criticism, and outside pressure.
Here’s the thing about that voice: it knows you better than anyone else. It’s buried underneath all the “shoulds,” the “what ifs,” and the endless comparisons. But when you tap into that voice, your true perspective becomes clear. You start to see what actually aligns with who you are and what you want.
A lot of the time, we don’t realize how distracted we are by our own self-criticism. That hypercritical voice inside? It’s just another distraction. Instead of supporting yourself with compassion and honesty, you end up tearing yourself down. You get stuck in cycles of guilt, shame, and blame, not just toward yourself but sometimes toward others too.
It doesn’t have to be that way. There’s power in holding yourself accountable without being cruel. It’s possible to lead with kindness and still be direct and honest about what needs to change. This balance isn’t about being perfect, it’s about creating space for growth without the constant need to punish yourself.
Even though I aim for this mindset about 85 percent of the time, I still catch myself falling into old patterns. That’s just part of being human. The key is recognizing when you’re slipping into that hypercritical mode and pulling yourself back. Ask yourself, “Is this really true? Am I being fair to myself here?”
Our perspectives are shaped by experiences and beliefs, and those can change over time. What you thought was true months or years ago might not hold the same weight today. But at your core, the things that drive and motivate you, those deep wiring beliefs—are steady. When you really know who you are, that foundation doesn’t shift as easily.
So, trust yourself. It’s not always easy, especially when you’re used to second-guessing your every move. But your perspective is valid. It deserves to be heard—by you first and foremost.
If you’re ready to start working through this process and want some guidance along the way, I’d love for you to join The YLF Experience. It’s designed to help you connect with your true self, break free from the noise, and build the life you deserve, one step at a time.