Hey there. It’s really hard not to focus on weight. I get it. We’re part of a community that literally has “weight loss” in the name, so of course the scale feels like the most important thing. Whether it's your current weight, a number from your past, or your “goal” weight, it becomes a big part of how you define your progress.
But here’s the problem. The number on the scale is not something you can fully control. You can make choices around food, exercise, sleep, and stress, but you can’t dial in how many pounds come off in a week. So when that number doesn’t change the way you want it to, it can wreck your motivation. That’s why I stopped putting all my energy into it.
Instead, I started focusing on my actions. What I can actually control. I do my best with workouts. I stick to a way of eating that satisfies me without making me feel restricted. I try to build consistency and patience. It’s not flashy, but it works.
When you start measuring success by your actions instead of the scale, you begin to feel more capable. You’re not just hoping for results. You’re creating them, day by day. And the more capable you feel, the more you actually enjoy the process.
It’s also easier to bounce back when life throws something at you. You don’t spiral because of one “bad” day or a slow week on the scale. You just return to your habits and keep going. That’s where real progress happens.
I’ve seen it time and again. People reach their goal weight and still feel insecure. I’ve been there myself. At my smallest adult size, I was the most insecure about my body. Because I was still focused on chasing a number instead of appreciating what my body could do.
So if you’ve been discouraged by the scale or you’ve ever looked back and thought, “I wish I knew then what I know now,” this is your moment. Start rebuilding your relationship with yourself. Focus on your actions. Trust the process.
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