Hey there. For so long I believed the message the fitness industry sells. Hustle harder, grind longer, never stop. All gas, no brakes. That was supposed to be the path to success. But after years of trying to live that way, all it ever really led to was burnout. And the more I pushed, the more I felt like I was losing control of the one thing I wanted most, which was to build something sustainable.
What I’ve realized is that the real alternative is living inside/out. That means connecting with myself first and then moving outward into my fitness, weight loss, and the rest of my life. Instead of constantly chasing happiness or peace from something outside of me, I now look inward and live outward from there. That simple shift has changed everything.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that pace matters far more than hustle. You can absolutely put in short bursts of intensity. There are times when going all out makes sense. But if your default mode is always grind, grind, grind, eventually you will burn out. I’ve done it multiple times, and each time the recovery took longer and left me feeling more drained. When I finally slowed down, focused on a deliberate pace, and gave myself space to breathe, I found I could get more done, feel calmer, and stay consistent for the long haul.
Inside my head, things became quieter too. I wasn’t second guessing every decision. I wasn’t stuck in endless chatter about what I should or shouldn’t be doing. I started to trust myself more. Of course there are still doubts at times, but overall the headspace is calmer. That calm deliberate pace is what keeps me moving forward in fitness and in life.
If you’ve spent years on your weight loss journey buying into the belief that success only comes from grinding harder, I want you to know there’s another way. You don’t have to wear yourself out to get results. Building a forever active lifestyle means focusing on pace, consistency, and connecting with yourself first. When you do, not only does your fitness change, but so does every other part of your life.
If you’re ready to try something different, I’d love for you to join me in The YLF Experience. It’s designed to give you the guidance and support you need to build a sustainable approach that truly lasts.