Hey there. There’s something I’ve learned after years of working with people “in fitness and other areas”. I don’t try to convince anyone to change.
With YLF that’s for them to love the body they have or the person underneath if they are set on believing that changing their body is the only way they’ll ever be worthy of appreciation. If someone is fully committed to that idea, nothing I say will get through. And honestly, I don’t want to spend my energy trying to force them to see it differently. As far as coaching or training, I’m not the right guy for them. As far as content to consume…I’m not that guy for them either.
Where I focus my time is on those who are at least curious when they hear a different perspective. Maybe they’ve been on the weight loss roller coaster for years. Maybe they’ve crushed a fitness goal only to realize they still feel empty inside. Maybe they’re just starting to ask questions about whether the way they’ve been taught to view themselves is really the only way. That curiosity is enough for me to offer a perspective that has the potential to shift their entire outlook.
I can’t make you believe anything. All I can do is provide a compelling point of view that you can try on for your own life. The choice to buy in is 100 percent your own. That’s the same way it works in fitness. I can show you that sustainable progress comes from building habits like tracking your food, being active in ways you enjoy, and paying attention to recovery. But I can’t make you follow through. You have to decide that this is a path worth walking.
The same is true when it comes to how you view yourself. You may have spent decades reinforcing the idea that your body is not good enough until it fits a certain mold. And if that’s your mindset, the only progress you’ll see is on the surface. The problem is that no amount of physical change will quiet the self-criticism that runs deep. That voice just finds something else to latch onto.
The shift happens when you at least allow yourself to consider that the relationship you have with yourself can change from the inside/out. When you practice compassion toward yourself, when you see your body as something to appreciate right now, you can still pursue fitness goals. But those goals become a reflection of how you already value yourself, not the condition for whether you get to feel that way.
This goes beyond fitness. It impacts your day-to-day decisions. When you decide that your worth is not up for debate, you stop living for validation and start living with a steady sense of peace.
So here’s my invitation. If you’re curious about shifting the way you approach fitness, health, and life, I’d love to walk with you through The YLF Experience. The choice is yours.