Hey there. One of the most helpful things I’ve learned on this journey is to spend most of my time focused on my own process. It sounds simple, but it’s a daily challenge. Whether it’s fitness, business, or life at home, comparison creeps in. You scroll through social media, you see someone else’s progress, and you start questioning your own. I’ve done it. We all have.
But here’s what helps. When I intentionally spend the majority of my time working on my own habits, routines, and goals, I feel more in control. I feel more confident. And most importantly, I feel less discouraged by what I see other people doing.
This is about more than just staying in your lane. It’s about building awareness. It’s knowing that the internal voice in your head might be more critical than helpful. So how do you change that? You set reminders. You build habits around focusing on what you’re doing right. You take five minutes each morning to ask yourself, “What did I do well yesterday?”
From there, you build on it. You create a plan based on what works for you. You look at your minimum daily actions, your weekly goals, and your progress updates. That’s the information that matters. That’s your process. And nobody else’s timeline has anything to do with it.
When you do this consistently, you start to notice a shift. You spend less time comparing and more time doing. You celebrate your own wins without needing to look for validation. And when you do encourage others, you’re doing it without falling into the comparison trap.
Yes, this takes time. And yes, you’ll still have moments where you compare. But now, you’ll have the tools to pull yourself back. You’ll remind yourself that this is your journey. You’ll get better at catching those negative thoughts and redirecting your focus.
If you can make 70 to 80 percent of your day about your own process and use the rest to cheer on others without comparison, you’ll feel more balanced. You’ll see better results. And you’ll enjoy the process a whole lot more.
If you’re ready to stop comparing and start building something that works for you, I’d love for you to join me inside The YLF Experience. We’re focused on progress, patience, and building sustainable habits that fit your life.