You Cannot Change The Past But You Can Change The Next Choice

Hey there. If you have been on a weight loss journey for years, there is a good chance you have replayed parts of your life in your head.

If I only knew then what I know now.
If I only stuck with that plan.
If I only appreciated the body I had back then.

That mental loop can feel productive. It feels reflective. It feels like growth. But more often than not, it is just regret dressed up as wisdom.

And while you are replaying the past, your life is still moving forward.

The Regret Trap So Many Of Us Fall Into

I talk to a lot of people in their mid thirties and beyond who have been aware of their bodies for most of their lives. You were told you were not good enough. Too big. Too small. Not lean enough. Not athletic enough.

So you tried to fix it.

You dieted. You started and stopped workout programs. You joined gyms. You quit gyms. You tracked calories. You swore off tracking calories. You told yourself this time would be different.

And now, years later, you look back at old pictures and think, I wish I had that body again. I thought I was out of shape then. I thought I was overweight then. I was so critical.

Regret sneaks in quietly. It tells you that if you had just been different, your life would have been different.

But here is the truth.

Your life happened the way it happened.

Some situations were lessons. Some were just hard seasons. Not everything is a teachable moment. Some things were simply painful.

The danger is not in acknowledging that. The danger is in building a life around looking backward.

You Are Always One Choice Away From Moving Forward

In fitness, I constantly remind people not to get too hung up on the last choice they made. If you overate at dinner, the next choice is coming soon. If you skipped a workout, the next opportunity is coming soon. Learn what you can, then move.

That principle applies everywhere.

Relationships. Career decisions. Friendships. The way you speak to yourself in the mirror.

You are constantly making choices.

The problem with living in regret is that it keeps your body in the present but your mind in the past. Meanwhile, time keeps moving. Years pass. Decades pass.

You do not need to erase your past. You need to stop living there.

Calm Headspace, Deliberate Pace

If you have been chasing weight loss for years, you know what urgency feels like. You know what panic feels like. You know what it feels like to start over again and again.

But real change happens from a calm headspace at a deliberate pace.

That means feeling your disappointment without letting it define you. That means acknowledging regret without turning it into your identity. That means recognizing that even if you were critical of your body ten years ago, you can choose appreciation today.

The inside/out approach is about reinforcing that choice daily. It is about understanding that your body was never the enemy. It was responding to the inputs, the stress, the expectations, and the stories you were given.

You were always good enough. You just did not believe it yet.

Stop Building A Future That Looks Like Your Past

If you constantly replay what you wish you had done, your future will become another chapter of the same regret.

You do not need a perfect past to build a powerful present.

You need the next choice.

You need to give yourself a break.

You need to move forward even if it feels uncomfortable.

This is not just about fat loss. It is about how you show up in conversations. How you take risks in business. How you advocate for yourself in relationships. How you respond to setbacks.

Your life is in motion whether you like it or not. The only question is whether you are moving with intention or dragging regret behind you.

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