Hey there. When I talk about living an inside/out life, I’m talking about starting with the relationship you have with yourself. That relationship is the foundation for everything else. If you’re not connected to yourself, it’s easy to fall into the trap of chasing things outside of you to feel better, more secure, or more fulfilled. I’ve done that. Most people have. But it never really gives you what you’re looking for.
So much of what we do, especially in relationships, comes from how we view ourselves. If we don’t believe we’re enough, if we’re always trying to prove something, then even what seems like selfless behavior can actually be about trying to get a reaction or favor from someone else. Take people pleasing for example. On the surface, it looks like someone is putting others ahead of themselves. But often, they’re doing it in hopes of getting something back. It’s a subtle but powerful shift when you realize that.
When we don’t see our own worth, our relationships can feel unstable. We might constantly question others’ intentions or build walls because we’re afraid of being hurt. Over time, this starts to feel normal. We convince ourselves that people can’t be trusted, or that we have to protect ourselves at all costs. But I don’t believe that’s true for everyone. I believe many of us are just disconnected from who we are, and that disconnection affects how we see the world.
It’s not just about setting boundaries, though that’s part of it. It’s about knowing your value, enforcing your worth, and recognizing that access to you should be earned. You can be kind to everyone and still protect your peace. You can give others grace without giving them full access to your energy.
When you’re connected to yourself, you’re able to understand your physical, mental, and emotional needs. You show up more fully. You communicate more clearly. You start making decisions based on what matters most to you, not what others expect.
This is what the inside out approach is all about. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being honest with yourself, showing up as you are, and building from there.
If this resonates with you and you’re ready to go deeper with this process, I invite you to join The YLF Experience. This is where we take these ideas and apply them to your life in a way that’s practical, sustainable, and built around who you are.