Since jumping back into the fitness industry at full speed, a couple of months ago, I’ve noticed that most of your trainers, coaches, and any other fitness professionals address questions around body image with logical statements like “ No one else is really paying attention to you, so just do your thing.” or “ you just need to get past this because you’re not the person you are when you started your weight loss journey.”
Here’s the thing, those statements aren’t necessarily incorrect, but what drives someone to think them is on an emotional level how they see themselves on the inside.
Our relationship with food comes back to how we feel about ourselves deep down as a person.
When someone’s trying to lose weight, they’re not only trying to create new habits and routines but more importantly, they have to be able to connect with themselves and work through everything that they have been carrying emotionally, in many cases their entire life.
The saddest thing to see is someone doing all this work to change what’s on the outside because that’s something they’ve desperately wanted for a long time, only to see them win the weight loss game but soon realize that they don’t feel any different on the inside.
Some of them then feel guilty because they chased something for so long thinking it would make them happy but instead they feel empty to some level.
This isn’t just a weight loss industry issue. This is chasing anything outside of yourself thinking it’s going to fill the void and remove the pain.
Your best bet is to start reconnecting with yourself now and work through everything you feel while you are chasing after all of those goals.
I know you can do it. 💪🏻
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It’s easy to lose connection with yourself.
“I’ll start Monday.”
It’s one of the most common phrases in fitness and weight loss, and on the surface, it makes sense. A fresh start. A new week. A clean slate.
Sometimes, it can even be helpful.
But when it becomes a pattern, it turns into a cycle.
Most people believe that staying consistent with fitness and weight loss comes down to motivation or discipline. You either feel driven to do the work, or you push yourself through it.
But there’s another state that doesn’t get talked about enough.
Neutral.
If you’re trying to lose weight right now, there’s a good chance you’re already getting enough protein.
The common recommendation of around one gram per pound of body weight is a simple guideline. If you stay somewhere between that and about 75 percent of it, you’re likely in a solid range. The bigger issue isn’t protein intake, it’s how you’re building your overall eating structure.
One of the hardest parts of weight loss isn’t the process itself. It’s actually believing the results you’ve achieved.
Most people expect their fitness or weight loss routine to fall apart when life gets hard. Stress, schedule changes, unexpected events, those are the usual suspects. But there’s another pattern that shows up just as often, and it’s much easier to miss.
Things start going well.
There’s a habit that feels like it’s protecting you, but it’s actually holding you back.
Avoiding the mirror.
Consistency isn’t about pushing harder or doing more every single day. That’s what most people believe, and it’s also why so many people feel stuck in the cycle of starting over.
The first step to building consistency isn’t action. It’s honesty.
Most people think confidence comes after the action.
You take the step.
You get the result.
And then you finally believe in yourself.
But that’s not how it works.
You’ve made progress.
Real progress.
And yet there are still moments where you look in the mirror… and start picking yourself apart.
Your body changed. Your pattern didn’t.
You know what makes lasting change easier?
Your environment.
Most people do not think about this, or they only think about pieces of it. They focus on mindset. They focus on action. But they miss the thing that quietly makes both of those easier or harder every single day.
Your environment does more of the work than you realize.
There was a time where I thought the only way to make progress was to keep going.
More workouts. More effort. More focus. Just keep stacking days and eventually something would click.
And to be fair, that does work for a while.
One of the biggest patterns I see when it comes to consistency is this cycle of doing everything “right” during the week, then feeling like everything falls apart on the weekend.
For a long time, I thought this came down to discipline. I thought if I could just push harder, stay more structured, or be more locked in, I would fix it. But what I’ve realized is that the weekend isn’t the problem. It’s what we’re doing during the week that sets us up for it.
Silence can feel uncomfortable.
Not just quiet, but loud.
And if you’ve ever experienced that, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
When everything around you slows down, when the distractions stop, what’s left is your thoughts.
And if you’ve spent a lot of time avoiding those thoughts, they don’t come back quietly.
They show up all at once.
Daryl
I want you to build a better relationship with yourself from the inside out. Check out my work on this blog, my podcasts and pretty much everywhere else online.