Have you ever tried to “fake it till you make it”? If you have, you know how exhausting it can be. You’re constantly pretending, trying to convince yourself (and others) that you’re someone you don’t fully believe you are. It’s a cycle of self-doubt and frustration that rarely leads to real, lasting change.

Here’s what I’ve learned: faking it doesn’t work. What does work? A simple but powerful approach: decide, take action, and remind.